When we speak of the wife obeying the husband, we normally think of obedience in military or political terms: the husband giving orders and the wife obeying them. But while this type of obedience may be appropriate in the army, it is ridiculous in the intimate relationship of marriage. The obedient wife does not wait for orders. Rather, she tries to discern her husband’s needs and feelings, and responds in love. When she sees her… [ read more ]
“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise” — Erich Fromm
“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”
A peaceful heart comes from perfect devotion to God’s will – St Anthony of Optina
A peaceful heart is acquired from perfect devotion to the will of God, without which we have nothing. And if your husband is really not good, ask yourself in all good conscience before God: “Do I, a sinner, deserve a good and kind husband?” And your conscience without fail will say that you certainly do not deserve a good husband; and then in humility of heart, in submission to God’s will, you will love him… [ read more ]